I want a 2nd opinion!
March 18, 2013 1 Comment
How many times have you found yourself saying, “I need to find a second opinion” whenever you hear unpleasant or unwanted news? Why do we visit doctor after doctor looking for an answer that we feel is the correct answer? We will shop our diagnosis in hopes of proving or disproving whatever it is we find hard to accept. Could it be that we have also done this with God? Have we shopped church rites, rituals, and doctrines looking for a church that will tell us what we want to hear, and how we want to hear it, instead of what God wants to say or how He wants it to be said?
Having survived 3 myocardial infractions (heart attacks), all before I reached the age of 43, I know all too well what it feels like to get a devastating report from the Doctor. The first thought is disbelief, which turns into fear, and then ultimately plunging into anger. This anger is fired off like buckshot out of a hunting rifle. Its powerful and takes out anything in its path. Human nature is such that we do not want to hear anything that is unpleasant or has potential to cause us discomfort in the future.
We will go to almost any length to find the answer we want to hear.
“A severe rash prompted a man from a rural area to come to town to be examined by one of my colleagues. After the usual history-taking followed by a series of test, the physician advised the patient that he would have to get rid of the dog that was evidently causing the allergic reaction. As the man was preparing to leave the office, my colleague asked him out of curiosity if he planned to sell the animal or give it away.”
“Neither one,” the patient replied. “I’m going to get me one of them second opinions I been reading about. It’s a lot easier to find a doctor than a good bird dog.” (George Hawkins, M.D. in Medical Economics, in Reader’s Digest, January, 1982)
It’s all too true. We convince ourselves the professionals, the ones who have gone to school to study specifically what ails us, are incorrect in their diagnosis, or at the very least, misinformed. Why do we have such a hard time hearing the truth? Are we in denial of what is really happening and we try to convince others around us there is nothing wrong? Could it be, we are scared of the truth and scared to face our own mortality? Could it be a case where the words being spoken cut to the very heart of the matter and, in our attempt to soften the impact, we look for a more palatable option?
“No man ever believes that the Bible means what it says: He is always convinced that it says what he means.” (George Bernard Shaw)
At the heart of the matter, lies that real problem, and that problem is, we don’t want to hear what we don’t think is right. One of the biggest reasons people leave a church family and look for a new place to call home, is because the Man of God is teaching and explaining how an action or reaction could be in direct opposition to Gods word. Woah, what? Did the preacher just judge me? That’s not their place, who do they think they are, God? How many times have we heard someone say, “Only God change judge me”?
Have you ever been listening to a speech, sermon, etc. where the speaker made a statement that tugged at your very soul? Something they stated made you feel a twinge of quilt or a little uneasy? Have you went home thinking, “If THAT’S the way they’re going to talk to me, I’m never going back there”? Why do we become so agitated with the Pastor when they’re trying to lead us, guide us, instruct us, and correct us when it’s needed?
Could it be that what we really need, is not someone who will minimize the actions or lifestyle we’re leading? Could it be the discomfort we feel from the ‘diagnosis’ is really God telling us its time to make a change? We need to Stop running from church to church every time a message doesn’t meet our approval. Instead, of seeking a second opinion from another minister, we should try asking God what He wants us to change.
Sure, you will always be able to find a church that will tell you what you want to hear, but will it be what God wants you to hear?
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